Having mental ill-health can be debilitating, isolating, scary, and confusing.
If people could see it physically, like having a black cloud over my head, I think they would have more empathy for those struggling with mental health.
During high school, I always felt the need to put on a façade, to be the class clown, to be overly outgoing and extraverted, funny and likable – to compensate for the whirlwind of emotions I experienced daily. It was so tiring to have such a mask all the time.
Struggling with my sexuality, moving out of home, schoolwork, and working part-time I began to engage in unhealthy habits and self-harm.
I had a small friendship group that I hung out with, but I thought that if I told them what I was going through, they might not be friends with me. (I now know this is absolutely not the case!)
Eventually, I trusted two teachers who approached my situation with empathy and understanding, and I opened up. They were encouraging and referred to the school counsellor for support.
“Self-compassion and self-care have played an extremely important role in my journey.”
Each day, I realise and acknowledge just how important self-care is, and ensure that it is prioritised. As cliché as it may sound, you cannot pour from an empty cup.
It is just as important to look after yourself as it is to acknowledge honestly how you are feeling. Having self-compassion is about checking in with ourselves regularly, recognising the signs when our mental health might be declining, and being proactive about utilising the strategies and tools to help.
For me, my self-care journey has been about discovering what works for me.
When I was in a really negative headspace, the number one thing people said to do was to exercise.
But I’m too precious to do cardio, it’s the devil.
However, I discovered aerials a few years ago, which is like exercise, but a lot more fun! It reminds me of playing on the monkey bars at primary school.
Now I attend a number of classes a week, including acrobatics, Lyra (hoop), pole, and handstands.
My current studio, Zana Aerial Dance Academy in Wagga Wagga, is a safe, inclusive, encouraging, and supportive environment for everyone who attends.
This has led to performing, at community events, mini-showcases, and our end-of-year Showcase, which has been another tool that brings me joy and happiness.
“My experiences have made me more resilient, and have led me to encourage others to get help, prioritise self-care, and nurture meaningful connections in their life.”
The more we talk about our mental health, the more we encourage others to.
If you are struggling, seek support, however that may look.
It can be in-person with a healthcare professional (i.e. GP), over the phone, virtually (Skype, web-chat, email), or a trusted person in your life.
For me, it would have been important to know that I’m not going to click with every professional. It may take a couple of tries to find the most suitable person for you.
Nic is a batyr lived experience storyteller and shares their experiences with schools, universities and workplaces across the country.
Photos by Lisa Clarke.
